Consultation with our children

We introduced Consultation to our children at the age of 4, preschool age. We explained to them the process from getting together, asking questions, listening to every opinion with respect and love, expressing own opinion or idea frankly, voting and accepting group decision.

We used consultation for problem solving, Building character, taking responsibilities, and planing activities.

Story: We invited our children along with other children from the neighborhood one day to build a huge pyramid. We gave every child 5 papers, 8 sticks and one glue and asked every one to build a pyramid on his own. Later, we asked them to form two groups; one group using consultation as a problem solving tool, with our support and help of our children. The second group left on their own without any guidance. The group who did consult managed to built a big pyramid with less effort and no time. From that experience, the children learned the importance of consultation.


"The purpose of consultation is to show that the views of several individuals are assuredly preferable to one man..."

"Consultation giveth him (humankind) insight into things and enableth him to delve into questions which are unknown"

Rules of Girls and Boys at Home

In God's eyes we are created equal. That means both girls and boys all have intelligence, capacities and talents regardless of gender and biological differences they have.

Boys and girls in a Baha'i family are treated equally. Both have the same rights and responsibilities at home, at school..etc. Our children are trained to help in general household tasks; cleaning their rooms, washing dishes, welcoming guests..etc. We encourage our children to finish their school, go to higher eduction / training and be a productive member in our society.

"Women and men have been and will always be equal in the sight of God"

Mothers and Fathers

"..although the mother is the first educator of the child, and the most important formative influence in his development, the father also has the responsibility of educating his children, and this responsibility is so weighty that Baha'u'llah has stated that a father who fails to exercises it forfeits his rights of fatherhood."

Due to the laws of nature, the mother is the first educator of the children who educate their children in the early years of their lives and generally provide a loving atmosphere at home. The father generally has the financial responsibilities for his family, however, this role could be reversed. Both share the responsibility of educating the children from an early age to have a goodly character and good morals. The Baha'i family as a human unit is based on sharing family power and decisions. Parents should consult together and come to an agreement on the training of their children. It is important that the children receive the love and attention they need, from both parents, to grow physically, intellectually and spiritually.

Roles of Parents; Education of their children...

Our responsibility, as parents, is to educate the children in science & art ... to develop their talents and skills, to educate them from an early age to have a goodly character, to bring useful and spiritual human being.

"education is the indispensable foundation of all human excellence and alloweth man to work his way to the heights of abiding glory." (Abdu'l-Baha)

"Among the greatest of all services that can possibly be rendered by man to Almighty God is the education and training of children, young plants of the Abha Paradise, so that these children, fostered by grace in the way of salvation, growing like pearls of divine bounty in the shell of education, will one day bejewel the crown of abiding glory." (Abdu'l-Baha)

Ethical Code of the Baha'i Family

Baha'is are expected to lead a high moral life, practising qualities such as truthfulness, trustworthiness, love, kindness, chastity outside of marriage. By trying harder each day to practise good qualities, spiritual transformation will happen. Spiritual transformation means growing closer to God.

Baha'is are not allowed to drink alcohol, use non-medical drugs, gamble or backbite.

Make a difference - Movie

Please watch this story and believe that you can make a difference in your family, community, country and the world.

Baha'i perspective on parenthood

We are doing everything we can to bring up our children in the love of God and have goodly character and guide them to become healthy, happy, and useful members of our society.

"..from their childhood instill in their hearts the love of God so they may manifest in their lives the fear of God and have confidence in the bestowals of God. Teach them to free themselves from human imperfections and to acquire the divine perfections latent in the heart of men..."Abdu'l-Baha

CONSULTATION is part of Baha'i family life

Consultation is part of Baha'i family life. It is essential to every family to be able to overcome the problems that we face today. We always ask our children their opinion when we decide to go somewhere or do one activity together. They right away cooperate and help to the best of their ability. It is always easy to teach them consultation at a younger age.

Consultation brings unity and love to the family.

"The atmosphere within a Baha'i family as within the community as a whole
should express 'the keynote of the Cause of God' which ...is not dictatorial authority but humble fellowship, not arbitrary power, but the spirit of frank and loving consultation'." (Lights of Guidance)

Prescription for Spritual Growth

"Be generous in prosperity, and thankful in adversity. Be worthy of the trust of thy neighbor, and look upon him with a bright and friendly face. Be a treasure to the poor, an admonisher to the rich, an answerer of the cry of the needy, a preserver of the sanctity of thy pledge. Be fair in thy judgment, and guarded in thy speech. Be unjust to no man, and show all meekness to all men. Be as a lamp unto them that walk in darkness, a joy to the sorrowful, a sea for the thirsty, a haven for the distressed, an upholder and defender of the victim of oppression. Let integrity and uprightness distinguish all thine acts. Be a home for the stranger, a balm to the suffering, a tower of strength for the fugitive. Be eyes to the blind, and a guiding light unto the feet of the erring. Be an ornament to the countenance of truth, a crown to the brow of fidelity, a pillar of the temple of righteousness, a breath of life to the body of mankind, an ensign of the hosts of justice, a luminary above the horizon of virtue, a dew to the soil of the human heart, an ark on the ocean of knowledge, a sun in the heaven of bounty, a gem on the diadem of wisdom, a shining light in the firmament of thy generation, a fruit upon the tree of humility" Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá'u'lláh

what is the Ideal family?

The ideal family considered to be the foundation of community life. The small unit which our society consists of. Individuals in the ideal family are united, working in harmony, have sense of loving kindness and caring, respecting each other's rights.

According to the teaching of Baha'u'llah, the family being a human unit must be educated according to the rules of sanctity. All virtues must be taught the family. The integrity of the family bond must be constantly considered and the rights of the individual members must be transgressed. The rights of the son, the father, the mother, none of them must be transgressed, none of them must be arbitrary. Just as the son has certain obligations to his father, the father likewise has certain obligations to his son. The mother, the sister and other members of the House hold have their certain prerogatives. All these rights and prerogatives must be conserved, yet the unity of the family must be sustained. The injury of one shall be the considered the injury of all; the comfort of each the comfort of all; the honour of one the honour of all.

"If love and agreement are manifest in a single family, that family will advance, become illumined and spiritual..."
Abdu'l Baha