Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Consultation with our children

We introduced Consultation to our children at the age of 4, preschool age. We explained to them the process from getting together, asking questions, listening to every opinion with respect and love, expressing own opinion or idea frankly, voting and accepting group decision.

We used consultation for problem solving, Building character, taking responsibilities, and planing activities.

Story: We invited our children along with other children from the neighborhood one day to build a huge pyramid. We gave every child 5 papers, 8 sticks and one glue and asked every one to build a pyramid on his own. Later, we asked them to form two groups; one group using consultation as a problem solving tool, with our support and help of our children. The second group left on their own without any guidance. The group who did consult managed to built a big pyramid with less effort and no time. From that experience, the children learned the importance of consultation.

"The purpose of consultation is to show that the views of several individuals are assuredly preferable to one man..."

"Consultation giveth him (humankind) insight into things and enableth him to delve into questions which are unknown"

Sunday, June 24, 2007

Rules of Girls and Boys at Home

In God's eyes we are created equal. That means both girls and boys all have intelligence, capacities and talents regardless of gender and biological differences they have.

Boys and girls in a Baha'i family are treated equally. Both have the same rights and responsibilities at home, at school..etc. Our children are trained to help in general household tasks; cleaning their rooms, washing dishes, welcoming guests..etc. We encourage our children to finish their school, go to higher eduction / training and be a productive member in our society.

"Women and men have been and will always be equal in the sight of God"

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Mothers and Fathers

"..although the mother is the first educator of the child, and the most important formative influence in his development, the father also has the responsibility of educating his children, and this responsibility is so weighty that Baha'u'llah has stated that a father who fails to exercises it forfeits his rights of fatherhood."

Due to the laws of nature, the mother is the first educator of the children who educate their children in the early years of their lives and generally provide a loving atmosphere at home. The father generally has the financial responsibilities for his family, however, this role could be reversed. Both share the responsibility of educating the children from an early age to have a goodly character and good morals. The Baha'i family as a human unit is based on sharing family power and decisions. Parents should consult together and come to an agreement on the training of their children. It is important that the children receive the love and attention they need, from both parents, to grow physically, intellectually and spiritually.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Roles of Parents; Education of their children...

Our responsibility, as parents, is to educate the children in science & art ... to develop their talents and skills, to educate them from an early age to have a goodly character, to bring useful and spiritual human being.

"education is the indispensable foundation of all human excellence and alloweth man to work his way to the heights of abiding glory." (Abdu'l-Baha)

"Among the greatest of all services that can possibly be rendered by man to Almighty God is the education and training of children, young plants of the Abha Paradise, so that these children, fostered by grace in the way of salvation, growing like pearls of divine bounty in the shell of education, will one day bejewel the crown of abiding glory." (Abdu'l-Baha)